I understand what it feels like to be a hurting wife and decided to create this page to help support wives. Out of my wounds I was attracted to men who were wounded as well. To anesthetize these wounds men and women often use sex & false intimacy among other things (alcohol, drugs, shopping, gambling, internet surfing etc.). Using sex and false intimacy as a means of coping with pain and escaping can lead to using pornography, prostitution, masturbation, false intimacy, affairs, lust, etc. which is falsely used to numb the pain of life. The pain doesn't go away, it just get's "forgotten" about for short time periods. Unfortunately using these types of destructive "pain medication" damages marriages as well as a person's soul and disconnects their spirit and is very painful to the spouse who discovers the secrets.
I understand first hand because I was one of those wives that found my husband(s) looking at pornography, chatting on line with other women, lusting after women and practicing habitual masturbation among other things that destroyed the trust and intimacy of our relationship. I understand what it feels like to be cheated on and heart broken. I have walked down very dark lonely paths and have endured many tears and gut wrenching nights, I understand and want you to know that there is hope and that you are not alone.
Through the grace that God supplies, I am healing from past and recent trauma and so is my marriage. Enduring the pain and carrying the burden alone only leads to a dead end, handing it over to God and getting the support you need is the answer. He provides you the Hope and gives you the strength to carry on. I speak from the voice of experience, I pray that it gives you comfort, encouragement and hope.....
This page is dedicated to supplying information that can help hurting wives. I share what has been helpful to me. I pray you are helped, please email me personally so I can help support you and supply you with additional information.
"When you pass through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers,
they shall not overflow thee...."(Isaiah 43:2)
Reach out and find others who are going through the same thing!
Do not let shame or embarrassment keep you alone.
There are others who understand and can walk along side you to help carry the heavy burden!
Spouses of sex addicts need help too! We have developed a spouse's program to help spouses of sex addicts deal with their partner's sexual addiction. L.I.F.E.
This is a support group that I am in and highly recommend. The website has some wonderful and helpful information on it as well.
Pure Sex Radio...a GREAT show that has many shows on line which is part of their archives that are wonderful and helpful to understand and be educated! They supply information and education both men and women.
The following are helpful resources for wives who live with a husband struggling with sexually addictive behaviors. For Wives Click Here (The First Seven Days is very helpful!)
What is the process of dealing with hurt that a woman must go through to ultimately heal? This broadcast will give superb insight into the "hurting cycle" that a woman goes through when pain is thrust upon her life. Very helpful for men in understanding women, and insightful for women seeking to understand more clearly what this cycle looks like.
Hurting Cycle Part I Click here
Hurting Cycle Part II
This broadcast helped me tremendously, I can't thank Jonathan Daugherty, Stephen Cervantes and Lee Preston enough for what they do! It is a tremendous resource and I highly recommend it. My husband and I listen to a show every evening and it is helping educate us and giving us both understanding. Information is powerful, use it to equip yourselves and gain invaluable awareness.
Written by: Stephen Cervantes
Produced by: Lee Bartlett
- Are you facing a difficult situation or relationship?
- Do you know a woman who could use encouragement and support?
- Are you struggling with feelings of shame, guilt, confusion, depression, or anxiety?
The Words for a Woman's Soul CD is a resource that can help you regain hope, peace, and confidence TODAY!
"When a woman's world brings hurt,
'Words for a Woman's Soul' responds
with comfort. The reminders on this
Hear a sample of the tracks:
1. Could You Believe- Marty Goetz
2. Your Name Brings a Smile to My Face (One of my favorites)
3. My Heart, Your Home - Watermark
4. I Offer You My Comfort (One of my favorites)
5. Beautiful - Aaron Spiro
How to Enhance Your CD Experience:
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Listen to the CD in private; alone
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Allow yourself one hour of uninterrupted time to listen to the CD in its entirety
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Listen while in a bubble bath with candles or other relaxing environment
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Close your eyes and imagine God speaking the words directly to your heart
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Share with someone you trust how the experience impacted you emotionally & spiritually
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Listen as often as needed to be reminded of your immeasurable worth to God!
I read Jonathan's book, have had the pleasure and privilege of meeting him, and can tell you that he is the Real deal! His transparency is refreshing and encouraging. He inspires me to be authentic and gave my husband and I hope. My husband just returned from one of his workshops and I can tell he’s changed! I praise God for his ministry and for honoring and giving God, the glory for what has and continues to be accomplished in his life. Secrets are no longer secrets when shared....I am telling as many people I can and encourage you to read it. If you are a wife of someone who struggles with sexual purity issues, I encourage you to read it and to receive the message of hope that Jonathan so eloquently delivers. This book provided Truth and deep healing in my own life. Thanks Jonathan for being Real!
To Read another fabulous and in depth book review from a man who is a recovering sexual addict click here.
To order a book from Be Broken Ministries click here
Not sure if you are someone you love is a sex addict? Take a short quiz and find out.
Purity Pointers by Be Broken Ministries
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The true measure of any man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands in in moments of challenge and controversy.
Martin Luther King Jr.
